Things Couples Forget to Do to Make a Long Distance Relationship Work

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You’ve just started seeing someone great. You get along, have fun together, and things seem to be going well. The only problem? They just received an offer for their dream job in another state. Or, maybe you hit it off with someone online who happens to live on the other side of the country.

Though it might seem scary or challenging, a long-distance relationship can succeed — and they do all the time. They just require a bit of extra consideration and work.

Here’s a look at how to keep the love alive and tackle potential issues that might come up.

Tips to keep things on track

Local and long-distance relationships require a lot of the same things for optimal relationship health. Long-distance ones, however, will require a bit more conscious thought.

“People in long-distance relationships must be way more intentional and industrious in doing the work that helps relationships thrive,” says Patrick Cheatham, PsyD.

Discuss communication needs

How to Tell If a Long-Distance Relationship Is Going to Work for You

When you first begin a long-distance relationship, decide how often you want to talk, beyond quick text messages throughout the day.

You might both agree you want to talk frequently but disagree about what that actually means. If your ideal levels of communication differ, finding a compromise early on can help prevent frustration later.

A communication schedule can also help. This schedule doesn’t have to stand firm, but you may feel comforted knowing when you’ll hear from your partner next.

An occasional, spontaneous, “thinking of you” phone call can be a nice surprise, but scheduling longer conversations can help you connect when you’re both at your best. If your partner is a night owl and you’re more of an early bird, for example, try planning calls for just before or just after dinner.

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